Emotions
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[00:00:00] Welcome to the Life Things podcast, where we think life things, speak, life things, and share life things. I am your host Dejak author and grad student getting a Master's in Marriage and Family Therapy. This podcast is for women who desire to start a journey, who are already on a journey of healing and wholeness.
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So today we're gonna be talking about emotions. So our emotions are basically feelings that we feel based off of our mood or based off of our like circumstances. And so when it comes to heartbreak, and when it comes to sep, the [00:01:00] separation that I went through. And the divorce that I went through, I experienced so many different emotions that women out there may be experiencing as well after heartbreak.
So I just wanted to share a lot of the emotions that I felt surrounding this topic and what I did to basically overcome those emotions. And so I have them written down here. I felt desperate. Lost, confused, invaluable, insignificant, lonely, unworthy, not enough. I felt heavy, empty, defeated, depressed, sad. I was crying all the time.
I felt alone and hurt. Stressed, afraid, scared, heartbroken. I felt. [00:02:00] Misunderstood. I felt small. I felt used. I felt unsupported, displaced, ashamed, unloved, and betrayed. Those were all the feelings that I felt during my journey from separation to divorce, and those were all of the negative emotions. I also did have joy still, that's a whole nother podcast, but you still want to have joy in the midst of it.
Um, find the little things. Make you happy. Find the little things that put a smile on your face. Being grateful, being thankful for the things that you do have also allows you to have joy during these hard times. But these were the negative emotions that I felt. And so to combat, basically to [00:03:00] combat these emotions.
I cried it out. I'm not even gonna lie. I cried it out. I was honest with God, and I basically told him like, this is how I'm feeling. I feel hurt. I feel alone. I feel betrayed. And I put on worship music. I know that's one thing that really worked for me was worshiping. Worship music, um, journaling as well. I wrote down a lot of what I was going through and that's why I have my book Pain to Purpose is because a lot of the things that happen, I wrote it down and so yeah, I encourage you to just find things that make you happy things.
Intentionally put a smile on your face. I know. Another thing that I used to do was go to Trader Joe's and go to Barnes and Noble, like, and go to Target. Stuff like that. Like all of those things make me happy in the moment. Um, [00:04:00] so just finding different things that you enjoy, even if it's like a hobby, getting into a new hobby, just doing things intentionally.
Even something as small as going to Starbucks and getting a coffee, like being intentional about, uh, lifting your spirits during these times where you might feel really low, and also coupling those tangible things with God because those tangible things alone are not going to, uh, fill you. So if you just do the tangible things by yourself without including God in the, in the picture, then you will never be fueled.
You will never feel like it's enough, or you've gotten to a place that you've overcame those negative emotions. So you have to couple it with God and. Couple it with the tangible things that's like journaling and finding things you love to do, and [00:05:00] I hope that was an encouragement for you guys. I just want to encourage you to think like things speak like things and share like things.